Guest blog post by Claire Davies
STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF AND SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
When you awaken and align with your true essence, you often experience a turbulent time where relationships reorganise themselves so they are also aligned with who you are.
They’ll be certain people you just won’t want to spend your time with or energy on. This will feel unfamiliar and you’ll question yourself.
For me personally, I don’t like drama and drinking and crassness. I used to be very forgiving and accepting but I’ve walked into a friends house and a board has been on the French door because a drunken night escalated the night before. When I’m in that space I get a horrible feeling. It’s like a jelly wobbling in me. It was my instinctual emotional body telling me this is not aligned with you.
In the past, I didn’t take heed. I felt I should show up for people, be caring, hold space for them etc. What I’ve realised as I’ve gained wisdom and more connection is there is absolutely no place for these people in my life. They bring chaos in, in ways we don’t even understand.
Some things I’ve noticed is a theme of drunken texts that they say they don’t mean and apologise for. Almost circling like a shark looking for a chink in your armour so they can make themselves feel better in their ‘comparing’ game. Sabotaging your efforts and or making comments or betraying your confidence.
I had a friend tell me how she was on a double date with another friend and laughing telling me how the other girls partner seemed to fancy her more and be more engaged with her. That’s a definite alarm bell. These aren’t friends. They are competitors posing as friends and if something advantaged them and disadvantaged you they wouldn’t think twice about bettering their situation, even if it worsened yours.
I’m sharing this because when you understand emotional energy and vibration you understand how negative ‘putting up with’ behaviours that aren’t aligned with yours can actually be.
When you withdraw from these people they are likely to accuse you of not being a good friend, of not caring. In extreme cases they will smear you to make themselves feel better.
Ride that bit out. They’ve revealed themselves. What other people think of you really is none of your business and those that know you will know the truth anyway.
Be discerning. Have good boundaries and don’t let people who aren’t wanting to grow, pull you from your peace or off your path. Don’t let guilt tripping, anger, smearing or any other control drama keep you hooked into an energy exchange that is actually disrupting your flow and progression to living a happy successful life
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