![]() Whenever I spend time with my brothers I revert to being a kid, messing about doing silly stuff. As the only girl and middle child, my brothers have always teased me and we laugh until my cheeks hurt. Our time together is precious as we live thousands of miles apart and we’ve planned countless playful activities; going to theme parks, the zoo, paintballing and most recently axe throwing, where my competitive tomboy spirit was unleashed. Actually, in truth, I act like a child whenever I can get away with it.I dance for hours around my kitchen or nightclub, it doesn’t matter. When I am on the beach I like to bury my legs in the warm sand. When I go out I dress for how I feel and not for how society expects me to look for my age.Making social media reels also keeps me connected to my inner child; they’re entertaining and silly and reminds me that it’s ok not to be so serious at times. Acting like a child is great fun, not only is it therapeutic in a world littered with stress, but it’s key to being happy and looking younger too. Studies have shown that laughter increases blood circulation and reduces pain and boosts our immune system. It raises your energy levels. Having six children also keeps me playful. When we’re on holiday, guess who’s the one splashing about, being pushed off the floaties, encouraging volleyball in the pool, starting water fights, pretending to be a shark underwater and generally not caring about the state of my hair or swimsuit.When we’re home guess who’s standing behind doors and leaping out screaming “boo” before collapsing in heaps of giggles. One Halloween I bought some six foot cardboard freestanding zombies to decorate the hall, my eldest son moved them to the end of my bed whilst i was asleep. I got up in the night to do a wee and screamed the house down and was laughing so much. Getting in touch with my inner child reminds me of the simplicity of childhood without the anxiety and responsibilities of adulthood. When you’re a kid, you just get up and do things without being self conscious. Children don’t worry about that, there’s magic in simplicity. Children are also naturally inquisitive and creative, wanting to draw, write and make things out of shoeboxes, buttons and string and aren’t bothered what people think.They’re happy to make a mess. Children express themselves so much better than adults, they’re downright honest and have no filter. But as we get older were conditioned to control ourselves and think before we speak, which can often leave us feeling frustrated and second guessing how others will react. And this isn’t being true to ourselves and we all end up in therapy! So act like a kid and do whatever you feel like doing. Age is just a state of mind and why should all the kids have all the fun!
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![]() Sometimes you have to just get away. They say a change is as good as a rest and I have been feeling stagnant with my business and frustrated with the slow pace of my divorce proceedings. I don't understand people who say they never go away.Sometimes you have to just change your scenery to re-energise. So I spoke to my brothers who live in New York and booked a week away to spend time with them, wander around Manhattan, almost shattering my kneecaps during the process of walking endless kilometres to seek clarity in where I want to go with my business and indeed myself. The past year has been littered with emotional confusion, financial stress, separation from my children and business anxiety and whilst I haven't been feeling overwhelmed, I haven't been able to focus as my brain is switched on to too many things. This week, however, I paused. I reflected on how far I have come and where I want to go. My business suffered terrible losses due to covid and I lost virtually all my advertisers. I felt sorry for myself, felt angry at the injustice of not being in control of my business that I had grafted to build up so well before the pandemic and I was living in the past. I realised this week that success comes with planning and execution, something I have always been good at ( shame I can't execute the ex husband). Instead of focusing on everything I lost I shifted my mindset to everything I have achieved. As my brothers reminded me, I wrote a bucket list in my 20s of things I wanted to do and I have done them all. I jumped out of a plane over the Great Barrier Reef, I created a large family filled with love, I bought a holiday home in a hot country that I love, I lost weight and transformed my image, I wrote and published a book, I created an Lifestyle awards ceremony in a city that is now part of their annual business calendar, I set up a magazine in not one country but two. Basically everything I set my mind to I achieved. I have done it once and I can do it again so I have created a new bucket list. Enough with the procrastinating and self pity. It's time to reclaim my power, my burning ambition to have financial freedom before I am 55 years old, fall in love with someone who shares my desires and embrace the beautiful life I have created. |
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