July 17th, 2025

WHERE'S THE SISTERHOOD GONE?
Let’s be real: when you’re a single woman, people treat you differently.
The invites slow down. The catch-ups get fewer. Group events morph into couples' things. You used to be part of the crew. Now, you're on the outskirts, almost like your singleness is a social inconvenience and you're often looked upon with pity.
Here’s the thing: I’m not lonely. I’m not sad I’m not pining after someone’s lifestyle. I have a great life, I’m just observing as a writer. And what I’m noticing is that sisterhood, you know the real, honest, show-up-for-each-other sisterhood, often disappears when your life doesn’t follow the expected script.
When my book got published recently and started conversations in literary circles, the group chat got quiet. They knew this was my dream. But there were no congratulations. No likes, No check-ins. Just crickets. The same women I rooted for through every milestone suddenly had nothing to say.
And since we’re speaking honestly, I don’t want your husband or your boyfriend.
If I’m chatting and he’s sitting next to you, please relax. I’m not trying to poach anyone. I’m allowed to exist in the same space without it being a perceived threat. If the idea of an attractive woman being single and confident makes you nervous, that’s something for you to unpack, not me. If I’m talking and he’s sitting next to you, please don’t act like I’m making moves. I’m not. The assumption is tired and frankly, insulting.
I can hold a conversation without it being about scheming. That says more about the dynamic in your relationship than anything about me.
Sisterhood isn’t supposed to be conditional. It’s not something that only applies when our lives look the same. Real sisterhood is flexible. It grows with us. It includes the ones who are thriving, the ones who are rebuilding, and the ones who are just doing their own thing.
So where is it?
Because I still believe in it but I also believe we need to start being more honest about how often we abandon each other when life paths diverge. Let’s rebuild it without the ego, the insecurity, the silent competition. Let’s choose connection over comparison. Let’s actually show up for each other and not just when it’s convenient or familiar.
To the women who still do that? Thank you. You’re rare. You’re real.
And to everyone else, we’re not here to threaten you. We just want our seat back at the table.
Read my award winning book, YOU'RE GOING TO DIE SO DO IT ANYWAY
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FFMJGQQK​

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