October 10th, 2024

NEW BLOG: MOVING ON FROM FAKE FRIENDS
There’s nothing worse than a woman scorned and forget Hurricane Milton, Mossy is on the rampage.
It’s the Scorpio month too, the astrology sign of grudge-bearing and unforgiveness, so I am in my element.
I am talking about an ex-friend of mine, the latest in a long line of aquaintances who I have cut out of my life. I have no hesitation in doing this as I don’t like personal drama. A friendship should be balanced and supportive but I was beginning to feel it fraying. We originally connected as we were both going through break ups at the same time, but reflecting on our past conversations, her trauma always had to cut deeper than mine, it was like she was always in competition with me which came to a head when she coupled up recently with a new partner.
Looking back at our friendship we also shared a common problem of financially struggling, but as soon as my business started to pick up she pulled away from me. She was big on healing, apparantly too which I find amusing for someone so toxic, she obviously hasn’t learned anything from it.
I was genuinely happy for her when she met someone and was always asking questions about how things were going. She wasn’t forthcoming to share any information so I stopped the questions, respecting her privacy, but when we went out for dinner she accused me of being jealous of her having a boyfriend which wounded me profoundly.
Now I am quick to admit my flaws, but jealousy of my friends is not a trait I have. I couldn’t possibly be friends with someone I am envious of and in fact the only time I have found myself jealous is when I have been so deeply in love with a man and they have looked at another woman.
Over the past few months I have been so busy with work projects and family which have been endless fun, but I never once didn’t think to include her in my plans and always extended invitations for her to join us. I messaged her several times a day to let her know I was thinking of her. She never wanted to go out so I stopped asking and the replies to my messages became shorter and more curt. I asked her if there was a problem and she said no so I left it at that.
I have been immersed in work events; fashion shows and awards and I noticed that she didn’t ask how they were going, she didn’t attend any and ignored all my social media posts, not liking a single picture which I thought was strange. Then she had a personal issue which I couldn’t attend to as I was filming on a rather big project and this seemed to tip her over the edge. She blanked me. I did reach out to her and was ignored. It appears that because I didn’t leave a film crew dangling to go and see her annoyed the hell out of her. And anyone who has worked in this industry, will know how grueling filming can be and I was on an exhausting schedule with little sleep and no time for me to even attend my beloved gym.
A week went by being completely ignored, having gone from speaking several times a day to being on the end of the silent treatment. One of my traits is that I can’t let things lie, if I feel there is a problem I have to speak out and try and solve it. As someone who grew up with being blanked by my parents, and my ex husband for years, being dismissed is not something I respond to well. Our paths crossed and she walked past me as if I was a stranger so I called over to her to ask what her problem was as any reasonable adult would do. She spun round and started yelling at me so profusely that spit was spraying out of her mouth, telling me that she didn’t want to be part of the “Amanda Moss show” anymore.
I work in the media, my events are very public, I am also a small-time influencer that gets paid to post reels on social media and of course, I do public relations so I am always er, putting on a show of some kind. My work shouldn’t have been a surprise to her.
Being yelled at in public, however is not something I tolerate and I realised that we never really had a friendship in the first place and she has no value in my life. Her attack was the ultimate betrayal.
Letting go of people who aren’t likeminded has been a major flex for me in my personal quest for peace and happiness and I realise that cutting off people that don’t serve you the same respect is a major step in loving yourself. I am not even upset by the end of this friendship which says a lot about it. I recall often having to tiptoe around her dark mood swings which I don’t miss. I only wish her happiness in her life, my life is fulfilling enough.
I am a kind person who likes to help others, a loyal person who will go out of my way for the people I care about. I like to see people thrive. But cross me and I will walk in the opposite direction. And as for my true friends, I love you all to the end of the earth and back and am grateful for our union.
Anyway I thank her for the content inspiration for this blog, immortalised forever in her words, “the Amanda Moss show”. She will hate me even more for writing this blog which gives me a little bit of evil pleasure and while she may not be interested in my life, trust me, with what I have planned in the coming year there’s plenty who will be.

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