![]() MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL HAPPINESS. I’d like to talk about money. I must spend 60% of my working month chasing invoices and I recently posted on social media requesting payments for tickets for the Lifestyle Awards which is only six weeks away. As a self employed businesswoman I don’t have the luxury of a regular salary dropping every month from a finance department and if I don’t get paid, neither do my bills and my events can’t run on glamour and personality alone. I commented that I was a proud capitalist who loves money and someone accused me of being a “money gremlin”. It got me thinking how we’re conditioned to think about money in a negative way, if we want it we’re greedy.If we don’t have it, we’re humble. Often when I chase an unpaid invoice I am greeted with abuse but that washes over me. I will not be made to feel guilty for asking for money owed to me for work I have completed. And I will happily confront someone who hasn’t paid me as I won’t be gaslighted to feel guilty for asking for what I am owed. Some people think money is a dirty word, like sex, but I like both in great abundance. Sadly at times I have had neither but it doesn’t stop me chasing it. Money is the root of all evil according to religious people because too many people adore it and you should only worship god. I don’t believe in god, and while I don’t worship money I love it and want it in great abundance for so many reasons. Money provides freedom to make choices and money provides food and a roof over my children’s heads which is the basic requirement for all humans. Covid hit me hard, I went from running a business with a six-figure turnover to losing all my unpaid invoices overnight and all my advertisers. I couldn’t print my magazine or run my events for two years and I was left without a regular income for over a year. My savings quickly dried up and I went from abundance to scarcity pretty quickly. It made me realise how important money was to me, and how much I missed it. We should not be embarrassed to love money, we should not be afraid to love having money. As I get older I want to create more money so that I have something to pass onto my children so they don’t have the same hardships I have faced in life. I have always talked about money with my kids and encouraged them to both save and spend on themselves. I don’t charge my adult kids rent to live in the home they grew up in, although they offer to help with bills if I have a short month. They’re able to save for their own homes which will take possibly a decade given the current state of the housing market, but that’s another story. I bought my first home with a £3000 deposit, they don’t have that luxury. People say making your kids pay rent at home teaches them about commitment but my kids are way more financially responsible than me. If I have it, I will spend it. Granted, mostly on them. Money creates so many emotions. It can make us feel happy when we achieve our goals, proud when we earn recognition, jealous when we compare ourselves to others, greedy when we want more than we need, or anxious when we face uncertainty.Money provides a safety net, shielding us from life's uncertainties and granting us peace of mind. I can safely say that all my anxiety issues and insomnia are caused by money worries. I have been financially independent all my life and have paid all the bills since I was 18. I never had anyone to share that responsibility and I don’t have any family who can help me out, I am completely reliant upon myself. So I don’t resent my bank account anymore and I am not afraid to check my balance. And I will treat myself because I work hard and I deserve it. Loving money is a way of loving ourselves. You've probably heard of saving described as “Paying yourself first.” By learning to love, respect, and value money, we learn to love, respect and value ourselves. I am not a money gremlin but a money goddess.
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