Gill Fell is an inspirational speaker and lifestyle blogger. She delivers guidance and helps you clear the emotional clutter from your life
Ditch the toxic friendships...... Snub ??? who are you???
Listened to a pod cast about people hurting your feelings.
I have been picked up and dropped so many times in my life... One time someone actually snubbed me for 6 months and I didn't even notice ???? Apparently I had offended her - I also had not noticed this offence. Hmmmmm
I know I'm not the only one to be in this situation - it's a thing that crops up many times in talks and coaching that I do. People seem to take control of our thinking and give us pain !!!
Nope - we are actually giving ourselves the pain by paying any attention to those people who feel it's ok to snub or offend you/us.
I can't get a full grip on the human mind because you think you are great pals with some people then you find out things that maybe you have been omitted from - like nights out, parties, drinks, coffee's etc. I wouldn't want to be invited to everyone's everything - but the less I get invited the more I don't want to go !! If that makes sense.
Carve out your own life................. with happiness of self
Now this used to offend me deeply.. Until I dropped these people. No necessarily from my whole life but from my mind.
They no longer had any real grip on my mental health. It took me years to find out what these people were like but there are still some lurking in the bushes.
My motto is "Positive Not perfect" - If I ever offend you.. Please let me know rather than just ditch me as a friend. Because I am a loyal person and will stick with you through thick and thin. I will apologise if I have done something wrong.
However... Now I have a much more powerful mindset, please do not think that you can get away with snubbing and dropping me. I don't need you. I have enough.
My friend Clare and her hubby Mike are coming up from Southampton today for the weekend and we are hoping to go boating and just being = Clare and I don't need to live in each others pockets to know that our friendship is solid Steel.
I love my friends and you don't need to serve time to be included as my friend. I have met some fabulous people since I started doing my meet ups and they are the kindest, biggest hearted people I know.
Friendships shift as your mindset shifts - don't be afraid to let go of toxic waste friendships.
Clear out the clutter including people.
Better will come along for you. And your real friends never snub or drop you, they are the ones who know your pain even when they don't see you every day.
Be a friend
I know that through writing this blog - the sentiments have resonated with many who have sent me messages.
Have Self trust and Self Respect and clear your life - say No thanks
Give a gentle blessing to the nasties in your life and move on.
The only time is NOW
- Now... please forgive me if I don't blog till Monday... I'll share a bit of Clare on Facebook. She's lovely.. I am blessed.
Yay..... she likes Champers so let't treat ourselves.
Hugs and love
ps.... Meditate for a few minutes on how fabulous you are and that you enjoy your own time xxxxxxx